I deeply appreciate the structure of this article especially because when I was younger, a lot of people I knew were asking themselves and each other why whenever they tried hard to chase a dating relationship they could not get anywhere. But then when they stopped trying they met the kind of people they liked. The point you brought up near the beginning I think is spot on for this which is if you try to get something you're probably not confident that you could already have it.
I'm not sure that there was necessarily one defining action or moment. In my case I just so strongly wanted the results in my favor and figured there was no harm in keeping at it that I discovered via my actions that my skills could indeed grow.
I deeply appreciate the structure of this article especially because when I was younger, a lot of people I knew were asking themselves and each other why whenever they tried hard to chase a dating relationship they could not get anywhere. But then when they stopped trying they met the kind of people they liked. The point you brought up near the beginning I think is spot on for this which is if you try to get something you're probably not confident that you could already have it.
Totally get that. It’s wild how letting go often brings the very thing we were chasing.
Did anything specific help you realize that shift?
I'm not sure that there was necessarily one defining action or moment. In my case I just so strongly wanted the results in my favor and figured there was no harm in keeping at it that I discovered via my actions that my skills could indeed grow.